One-Line Bio

Provoking a deeper conversation about cross-gender friendships


Married to my best friend, Sheila for 33 years. We have a thirty year old son named Jonathan. I have been researching male-female friendship for the last decade. Romantic intimacy and friendship intimacy are not rival intimacies. I continue to enjoy healthy longstanding intimate friendships with women my wife knows, loves, and trusts deeply. My longest friendship of thirteen years is also my closest friend. I'm a respected leader in my church. I've hosted two national Sacred Friendship Gatherings in recent years where leaders, pastors, therapists, and friends gathered to engage this complex and sacred relationship.