If you talk to one of my close friends, Susanne, she will enthusiastically tell you how her sense of sexuality as a single evangelical woman changed in the first year of our friendship. It was not too long after our friendship began to be intentional that I noticed Susanne was intent on being fully present with the person in front of her.
Including me, her married male friend growing closer to her.
When you are in her presence, she seeks to be fully attentive to you with a self-awareness and other-awareness, an openness to a posture of deep listening, a readiness to respond appropriately and holistically to the other’s presence; once you have earned her trust, she is unafraid of intense emotional-spiritual connection; she’s authentic and honest about her limits, her strengths, and weaknesses.
I’ve come to know that about her in the past seven years.
Those two words—fully present—convey a profound shift in male-female relationships for evangelical leaders.