My female therapist greeted me with a welcoming hug and then we proceeded to talk about my hopes that my next book would be a step further in exploring the deep connection between sexuality and friendship. It was a great conversation with a Christian woman about disentangling sexuality from the sexual purity paradigm.
For the last several years I have been fascinated with how female therapists are dismantling the sexual purity culture. It’s clear they offer a sacred and safe presence to countless numbers of women suffering from the sexual purity culture, sexism (benevolent, ambivalent, or hostile), and patriarchal coercion. Their therapeutic relationship is healing for many women. In that relationship they also empower women with authentic voices.
But they do something else that powerfully dismantles the sexual purity culture: the assertive, bold, and courageous posture to be fully present with their male clients.
Spiritually, emotionally, physically, and psychologically present in the moment.