One of my ongoing personal and scholarly interests is the meaning, depth, and quality of shared vulnerability between men and women. You cannot have a passionate interest in a spirituality of cross-gender friendship without also having a passionate interest in shared vulnerability between men and women. I've been blessed in recent years to know something of deep social trust.
My curiosity was immediately piqued when I learned that IVP came out with a book in 2015, Unburdened: The Christian Leader’s Guide to Sexual Integrity by licensed counselor Michael Todd Wilson. My question: was this book written for evangelical male leaders going to advance the conversation of shared vulnerability between evangelical male leaders and women?
Any book that wants to call male leaders out of their shame, out of their isolation, out of their solitary confinement as they wrestle with sexual integrity is a positive thing. Please hear me say that at the outset of me engaging this book.
For my female friends who are therapists, pastors, philosophers, spiritual directors, theologians, and fellow companions who are longing for more shared vulnerability emanating from evangelical males in this post Christendom world, this book offers a vivid inside peek into why you will have to wait. The subtitle of the book could have been: “Sexual Integrity Seen Through the Eyes of Benevolent Evangelical Patriarchy.”