I have this intention of not being long or drawn out. But I wanted to highlight the positive beauty of a deeper realism when platonic friends have embraced deep trust and shared life over the long haul. This is something you do not hear from your favorite bloggers or authors when they address male-female relationships because their personal experience is so limited (unlike many of the dyads we have heard in the news recently).
There is a precious beauty of deeper realism that is beyond all gold in Fort Knox when you have shared life and nurtured deep intimacy with a cross-gender friend. We saw such beauty in some of those posts in which I highlighted the enduring affection of those well-known dyads over the years.
I have a voluntary but nevertheless chosen prayer discipline with one of my closest female friends. For seven years now, we have prayed daily as we both have left our respective houses within the same time frame. Our commutes our basically the same in terms of the length of the drive.
We check in ask how the other's day went and they we pray for each other, our friends, families, jobs, etc. It's been quite incredible to see God respond to prayer at times. So, for the last nine months I've heard my friend every weekday pray for "baby-girl Brennan." My friend prayed some beautiful, beautiful prayers for Maggie.
When my son called us with the news about Maggie's birth this week, one of the first calls I made was to my friend. And I was crying tears of joy as I relayed to her my son's first words to his newborn daughter--they were so full of tender love toward Maggie. And there in that moment, I also heard my friend choke up, and rejoice with me with such full joy.
There is no way I could even begin to tell you what's like to share such joy with a cross-gender friend you have prayed daily with and for, with a cross-gender friend who has poured her heart before God for my family for years. But now, to experience the shared joy of my granddaughter entering into the world through nine months of prayer...A precious beauty that is so valuable that speaks so much like God's dream for men and women.
For me it was a moment of such explicit beauty. I savored it. I'm still savoring it two days later.