I did not start out with a theory of friendship to challenge evangelical sexism, dualism, gendered prayer, and the evangelical social structure of gender inequality in churches and institutions. I did not start out cheerleading for Christian feminists. I started out as a committed complementarian.
It all began with an interest in pursuing authentic prayer with my closest female friend at the time. For the past five years I have intentionally chosen a front-row seat in a practice in which many evangelical leaders have posted a “keep out” sign to God.
Yea, imagine that. Christians posting a keep out sign to God.
When we started out to seek God through embodied and authentic prayer I did recognize what we were doing was quite counter-evangelical-sub-culture. I had no idea though, about how much gendered indifference and privilege I would have to face in my own heart. I had no idea I had been immersed into patriarchy, gendered straightjackets, and dualisms.