In my journey to explore the depths of healthy and maturing friendship between the sexes I have come to know a deeper realism that is priceless to me at this point. A commitment to an ever-deepening maturing knowledge of spiritual friendship between men and women has immersed me into a deeper realism that is far beyond what I could have imagined.
I can see a redemptive trajectory that is rich with the explicit nearness of God dwelling in holy friendships between the sexes. To know the deep blessing of the nearness of God in this friendship is to know something of the breadth and length and height and depth of Christ’s love dwelling in the midst of cross-gender friends.
It is to taste something of the biblical realism in the words of theologian Jürgen Moltmann that any moment, “can be lived in the inconceivable closeness of God in the Spirit.” In the embracing and tasting that deeper realism, I know a redemptive nearness that opens men and women into something profoundly beautiful, healing, and communal trust.
Words can’t even begin to describe the trust and love I share with Sheila my wife of thirty four years, the trust I share with female friends, male friends, friends who are pastors, therapists, sociologists, and so forth in the past eight plus years—a rich deep communal trust. These dear people know me, know my integrity, my strengths and weaknesses, and my intention to help men and women know healthy and maturing cross-sex friendships in leadership and community.